Dolls Like Me

As a child of the 80s, I was sure that only women and girls with blonde hair and blue eyes could be beautiful.
I think this came from ideas about beauty in kid pop culture, including cartoons, dolls, TV commercials, and movies.  Inevitably, the most popular character or on a show or the “most beautiful” doll was blonde haired and blue eyed.  

Good old Barbie. A whole slew of unattainable beauty ideals.
Remember Beverly Hills Teens?  The most popular girl was blonde and blue-eyed.
The Kid Sister doll. Cute = blonde hair and blue eyes
I didn’t start reading these books until I was older — but there it is again.  Blonde hair and blue eyes = beauty.

It’s shocking now to think that I accepted this idea – that nothing other than blonde hair and blue eyes could ever be beautiful.  After all, I had a lot of non-blondes around me.  My neighbors and classmates were from various ethnic backgrounds with brown, black, blonde, grey, and white hair.  Most of my family’s close friends were Indian American, and with little exception, their eyes were brown (though the rare light-eyed ones were admired by all of us).  But all of the “official” ideas about beauty (to my young mind, TV, books, cute dolls, movies, my friends’ opinions) said blonde hair and blue eyes were what I should covet. 

Looking back on all of this as an adult, I realize just how important it is that kid pop culture and society in general embrace broader ideas about beauty.  And things have come a long way.  But we still have further to go.

Case in point, dolls.  They come in more colors now, but most of them have stick-straight, silky hair.  And that’s making lots of curly-haired little girls out there think that only straight hair is beautiful.

And some amazing moms out there decided to change that.  These brilliant women came up with a way to give dolls “natural” black hair texture.  It can also be used to give dolls curly hair.  Here’s a link to the tutorial.  

Now doll-makers are telling you that brown skin can be beautiful, but curly hair still can’t be.

Giving your doll curly hair is as easy as 1-2-3-4.  Well, the 1 part is sort of time consuming but worth it when you see the end result.  Step 1 – twist the doll’s hair around pipe cleaners.  Step 2 – dunk all that hair in boiling water.  Step 3 – air dry. Step 4 – untwist the hair.  Step 5 (optional) – brush out the hair.

Here is the doll with her “curlers”:

And here is the result:

Love it!  What a great way to show kids that that there is more than one definition of beauty.

What do you remember about ideas of beauty from when you were a kid?  Where did those ideas come from?  How do you think beauty ideals are different today?

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Great Indian American Children’s Books for the Holiday Season

A few months ago, I posted about the importance of Indian American children’s books.  Well, a wonderful Indian American children’s book author, Uma Krishnaswami, sent me a few of her books to review.  The verdict: I love them!

The first book I read is called, Monsoon, a picture book about children in a city in India waiting for the monsoon rains.  They slog through hot, dry, dusty days wondering when the heavy rains will come to wet the earth.

This book is great for a few reasons.  First, the illustrations are beautiful.  So much of what makes children’s books special is their artwork, and this one is no exception.  Monsoon‘s illustrations feature the sunset colors of dusty purple, blue, orange, goldenrod, and pink.  They also paint a picture of modern India that I haven’t seen in other Indian-themed books.  Buildings and shops with signs in Hindi and English border the crowded streets.  People in yellow and black taxis, in rikshaws, on bicycles, and on scooters share the road with merchants who spread their colorful wares on the streets.  Roaming cows make an appearance too, and one of them stops a taxi in its tracks.  This would be a nice book to prepare kids to travel to India, as it paints a realistic picture of city life there.

I also like how the book features a non-nuclear family in which Nani, the children’s grandmother, lives with them.  She tells them about monsoons in her village from the olden days.  This reminds me of the way my grandparents (who lived with us when I was growing up) would tell my brother and me stories about village life.  Finally, the book connects children growing up in the United States to a season we don’t experience in this part of the world — the monsoon.  The last page provides a short science lesson about the monsoons.

The book doesn’t really address my main point about Indian American literature, though.  The story is set in India, not the United States, so it doesn’t further the cause of featuring Indian Americans in print. Still, it’s a great introduction to modern India and would be a great addition to your local library or a school library.  It’s selling for a song now at $6.78 and is Amazon Prime eligible (Free shipping. Woo hoo!).  In fact, I plan to donate one to a local holiday book drive this season.

The second book is called The Broken Tusk: Stories of  the Hindu God Ganesha and is Krishnaswami’s retelling of classic stories about Ganesha.  This is perfect for second-generation Hindus like myself who want to tell their children bedtime stories about Hindu gods but don’t quite remember how they go.  I’ve tried getting around my memory problem by using books from India, such as a version of the Panchatantra that my mother gave me.  Unfortunately, a lot of those types of books aren’t translated well, so they read awkwardly.  More importantly (if you have small children), some of them have entirely too much violence.  For example, the Panchatantra book had a story about a bird who tried to get even with an elephant by pecking its eyes until it tripped and died.  Eek!  Not the sort of thing that will lull a child into a peaceful sleep, is it?

I must admit, I haven’t read all of the stories in The Broken Tusk (there are 17), but the ones that I have read are great.  There’s the old favorite about Ganesha winning a race around the world against his brother by traveling about his parents.  There’s also one that I haven’t heard before about how Ganesha influenced the phases of the moon.  This book isn’t a picture book, though there are a few illustrations scattered throughout.  Krishnaswami gets bonus points for including a glossary, names of Ganesha section, and an explanation of characters from Hindu mythology and history.  I think these features would make it a nice addition to a public or school library collection.

Are there any other Indian American children’s books I should review?  I would love to get more ideas from you all.  Let me know in the comments or by sending an e-mail to iammomsblog@gmail.com.  You can also tweet to (at?) @iammomsblog.

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